7 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People

7 Destructive Habits of Incompetent People -- By Michael Lee (Author of How to Be an Expert Persuader)

WARNING! If you want to have a fantastic life, never engage yourself in these 7 deadly habits that incompetent people do.

Number 1 - They Think, Say, & Do Negative Things.

Yup. They see problems in every opportunity.

They complain that the sun is too hot. They cursed the rain for ruining their plans for the day. They blame the wind for ruining their hair.

They think that everyone is against them. They see the problems but never the solutions.

Every little bit of difficulty is exaggerated to the point of tragedy. They regard failures as catastrophes. They become discouraged easily instead of learning from their mistakes.

They never seem to move forward because they're always afraid to come out of their comfort zones.

Number 2 - They Act Before They Think.

They move based on instinst or impulse. If they see something they like, they buy at once without any second thought.

Then they see something better. They regret & curse for not able to take advantage of the bargain.

Then they spend & spend again until nothing's left. They don't think about the future. What they're after is the pleasure they will experience at present.

They don't think about the consequenses. Those who engage in unsafe sex, criminality, and the like are included in this group.

Number 3 - They Talk Much More Than They Listen

They want to be the star of the show. So they always engage in talks that would make them heroes, even to the point of lying.

Oftentimes they are not aware that what they're saying is not sensible anymore.

When other people advise them, they close their ears because they're too proud to admit their mistakes.

In their mind they're always correct. They reject suggestions because that will make them feel inferior.

Number 4 - They Give Up Easily

Successful people treat failures as stepping stones to success.

Incompetent ones call it quits upon recognizing the first signs of failure.

At first, they may be excited to start an endeavor. But then they lose interest fairly quickly, especially when they encounter errors.

Then they go & search for a new one. Same story & same results. Incompetent people don't have the persistence to go on and fulfill their dreams.

Number 5 - They Try to Bring Others Down To Their Level

Incompetent people envy other successful individuals. Instead of working hard to be like them, these incompetent ones spread rumors and try every dirty trick to bring them down.

They could've asked these successful ones nicely. But no, they're too proud. They don't want to ask advise. Moreover, they're too negative to accomplish anything.

Number 6 - They Waste Their Time

They don't know what to do next. They may just be contented on eating, getting drunk, watching TV, or worse, staring at the blank wall with no thoughts whatsoever to improve their lives.

It's perfectly fine to enjoy once in a while. But time should be managed efficiently in order to succeed. There should be a proper balance between work & pleasure.

Number 7 - They Take the Easy Way Out

If there are two roads to choose from, incompetent people would choose the wider road with less rewards than the narrower road with much better rewards at the end.

They don't want any suffering or hardship. They want a good life.

What these people don't know is that what you reap is what you sow. Efforts & action will not go unnoticed.

If only they would be willing to sacrifice a little, they would be much better off.

Successful people made it through trials & error. They never give up. They are willing to do everything necessary to achieve what they aspire for in life.

Michael Lee is the author of the highly acclaimed How To Be An Expert Persuader... In 20 Days or Less. It reveals mind-altering persuasion secrets to greatly enhance your relationships, boost your career and business, and persuade anyone to willingly and eagerly do what you want... without them knowing it.  http://www.mindpowernews.com/7DestructiveHabits.htm

How To Identify A Scam

An Attorney General would ask these two questions:

1 - Would a logical thinking person pay this much money for the product or service if there was not a business opportunity involved?

2 - Does the income stop when the recruiting stops?

If the answer to the first question is "No" and/or the answer to the second question is "Yes",
then it is a scam.

Don't become BUBBA BAIT!

To avoid sharing a cell with Bubba, avoid:

Cash Gifting Programs.
(It's NOT a Gift if You Solicit It, Unless You're a Registered Charity, and You Report Donations.)


Any Program where You Receive Hundreds or Thousands of Dollars when Someone Joins, and Your Recruits Receive Nothing of Intrinsic Value They Can Hold in Their Hands.
(A Stream of Digital Data is NOT a Product!)


Any Program Paying You Commissions on a Monthly Website Fee.
(Commissions on Tools are Illegal.)

CHAPTER 8 DECISION: THE MASTERY OF PROCRASTINATION

CHAPTER 8
DECISION: THE MASTERY OF PROCRASTINATION

The Seventh Step toward Riches

By Carmen Schuster

What I get out of the first few paragraphs of this chapter is that decisions which are not followed by action, aren't really decisions, they are wishes or maybe opinions. I think this is what Napoleon Hill means when he talks about "definite decisions": decision backed by action.

I, personally, am very quick to decide if I'll do something or not. Of those decisions, the ones that are put into action are the only ones that have an impact, though. 
When I was fifteen I decided to become a chemist. I've always loved sciences and to me, chemistry held an allure and a magic that the other sciences lacked. I put this decision into action by first achieving the grades required for enrollment at the university, then by actually enrolling and following through with my studies. 
Later, when this career choice didn't really suit me any longer, a new decision needed to be made. After trying my hand at a number of different things, like freelance scientific writing, opening my own soapmaking business, and even working a 9 to 5 job as a category manager for a few years, I came across network marketing. Boy, this looked good, really good.

I decided to join an MLM opportunity. After all, this business holds the ultimate allure of time freedom and financial freedom. Like many other newbies who join a network marketing company I didn't really have a clue then about the business or the industry. Friends and family were horrified and tried to talk me out of it. I am sure they meant well but I stood by my decision. If other people can do this, then so can I, right? 

Well,the next two years were spent mostly with finding out about the things that DON'T work in MLM, like for example this asinine concept of making lists of family and friends, of neighbours and acquaintances, and pestering those people with the biz opp. It soon dawned on me that this was not working, that without proper upline support and any kind of duplicatable system to follow, I was not going to have any success in this industry. So another decision was needed: the decision to get help. Research on the internet provided me with the names of many, many, many MLM coaches, motivational speakers, lead generation experts, all eager to help me with my business if I would just buy their expensive trainings and services. I tried a few of those with little success. 

Somewhere in all this, I happened to download a free ebook, full of eye opening revelations and sound advice, leading me to the Mentoring For Free System. And here I am, listening to the calls, staying close to the fire, enjoying the companionship of this group, all the while being educated about the amazing mlm industry, AND BEING GENTLY PRODDED AND CONSTANTLY REMINDED TO ACT ON MY DECISIONS. This is doing me a ton of good, helping me grow as a person as well as helping me grow my business. 

Thank you, Michael and Linda, for creating this friendly and supportive environment. And thank you to everyone on these calls for being here with me and being part of this.

With much appreciation,

Carmen Schuster

Cologne, Germany

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The 7 Things I Would Tell Myself 25 Years Ago

The 7 Things I Would Tell Myself 25 Years Ago by Christian McMahan

Since starting Smartfish two years ago, one of the things I have most enjoyed is being able to take the time to speak at marketing classes and universities around the Northeast. I cover a wide variety of marketing topics, but one of my favorites as I look across the rooms and lecture halls and see the faces of graduating students who are on the verge of starting their own careers is, knowing what I know now, “What I would tell myself 25 years ago”.

1. Follow Your Passion

I was fortunate, I spent most of career in the beer industry (to most 22-yr old males, this is a passion area!). It is so much easier to work in a field that you have passion for vs. doing something that does not inspire you to pop out of bed in the morning. Whatever it is- Athletics, Environmental Causes, Fashion, etc., if you are going to sacrifice your early years of low pay and long hours, put it in to something that inspires you. I have often spoken to peers who have been in industries they don’t love and the difference in how we talked about our careers was always fascinating. When you love what you do, life is going to be that much better!

2. Know Where You Want To Be

There are no guarantees, but why choose a job, industry, or company that does not have a presence in the area of the country that you ultimately want to live in. It does not have to be right away, and its always a good idea to experience other regions/cultures, but ultimately you want all roads to get you back to where you think you want to be. I have seen too many people over the years stranded, with no other options available other than to leave the company they have spent a great deal of time and energy against in order to get back to area that they desired to be in. Think with the end in mind.

3. What’s Your Story

I always like to ask my classes to look at the person next to them and then I let them know they are looking at their competition for the job they want. When you start that first job search and you are likely not able to rely on years of applicable experience, ask yourself what is my story? What internships have you done? What volunteer and/or non-profit work have you done? How have you demonstrated leadership on campus or during your part-time jobs? Your resume is going out with countless others and when someone looks at it, they are immediately trying to develop a picture of who you are and what you have really done. How you ensure your resume stands out is up to you and early on, it can make all the difference.

4. Build Your Network

It is easier now to build a network than it has ever been. You should be graduating with 500+ connections on LinkedIn, plus an even healthier dose of contacts on your more personal social networks. You should be LinkedIn with not just your classmates, but also your teachers, family friends and basically anyone else who you know who is in a professional field. You never know who may be a useful influencer in helping you find your next job.

5. Find Mentors

Everyone needs them. As you move through your career you are going to be lucky enough to work with some special people, ones that you will want as mentors for your entire career. Keeping mentors takes work, you need to ensure you do a good job of staying in contact with them and keep them up to date on what you are doing. I learned the value of keeping a “Relationship Wheel” map. The purpose is to have a wheel with 8-10 people on it, people who are big influencers in your current role and in your overall career. You then keep that wheel and refer to it every 60 days or so. When you pull it out, take a time to write a score down on where you think your current relationship is with each person, if it is less than an 8, develop an action plan on how it can be improved before the next time you review.

6. Be Humble

Everyone wants the dream. The industry, the company, the job, and of course the handsome paycheck. Breaking news, it’s not going to happen. Prioritize what is most important to you and do what it takes to make your priorities a reality. I am a strong advocate that if you truly believe in yourself, do what ever you need to do to get in the door of the company/industry you most want. Once in, everything else will be realized if you are willing to put in the time and effort it takes to succeed.

7. Manage Your Social Media

This is the last thought I like to leave with the class. The reality is that so much of what is being done now has a digital footprint, so don’t be an idiot. Seeing a photo of you online being surrounded by a pool of red Solo cups is not a good first impression. It’s easy to manage what you put out there, but you also have your friends posting stuff as well. Companies are not just looking at your LinkedIn profile, they are looking to see if they can learn something more about you on Instagram, Twitter, etc. The other thing is to make sure your LinkedIn profile is strong. The wide variance in both content and effort that students put in to their LinkedIn profiles is mindboggling. This is your online resume!

Take the time and energy to put your best possible self out there or suffer the consequences.  It is both an exciting and anxious time for those of you who are about to take their first career step. Rest assured, not every move you are about to make is going to go according to plan. Just keep in mind the 7 things above and hopefully you will be on your way to realizing the dream situation sooner in life vs. later. After all, it’s one of the big reasons you and your parents just paid all that money for you to go to school for in the first place!

The 7 Things Successful People Never Say by Ilya Pozin

You want to be successful. Everyone does. But your actual words might be undermining your chances of success. The things you say in the office, no matter how innocuous they seem to you, might be knocking you down the career ladder and putting the top position you dream about out of reach.

Your career is too important to be tanked by a few negative phrases. Here are the seven things you should strike from your workplace vocabulary if you want to achieve the success you richly deserve:

1. “That’s not in my job description.”

When you accepted your current position, you had a good idea of what the responsibilities and workload of the role would entail. Throughout the months or years since you settled into your job, however, your role has expanded and changed shape. Some of these changes have probably been good, while others have made you wish for simpler times. When a boss or manager piles another responsibility on your already sore shoulders, it might be tempting to pull out this classic gem of work avoidance.

The better option, however, is to schedule a time to talk to your boss about your role. A specific conversation about your place in the organization is a good time to bring up the particulars of your job description, not when you’re asked to get something accomplished. No matter how stressed you are or how valid the complaint, dropping this phrase only makes you look lazy and unmotivated.

2. “It can’t be done.”

Throwing in the towel makes you look like a quitter -- and quitters don’t get promoted. Instead of giving up on a project entirely, frame your response in terms of alternative ways to get the work accomplished. Very little is truly impossible, and most managers and executives want forward-thinking problem solvers to climb the corporate ladder. If you offer solutions instead of giving up, you’ll be seen as a valuable member of the team.

3. “It’s not my fault.”

No one wants to work with a blame shifter. After all, it’s just a matter of time before this person eventually shifts the blame onto you. Take ownership of your mistakes instead of pointing out where others have fallen short. Admitting to a mistake shows character and the ability to learn and grow from problems. Pointing the finger at someone else strongly implies you’ll never truly learn from your errors.

4. “This will just take a minute.”

Unless something will literally take only 60 seconds, don’t overpromise and underdeliver. Saying something will only take “a minute” also has the side effect of undermining your efforts. Most likely the reason the particular task won’t take long is due to the benefit of your professional experience and acumen. By saying it will “just” take a minute, you're shortchanging what you bring to the table.

5. “I don’t need any help.”

The rugged lone wolf type might be the hero of most action movies, but they’re unlikely to become the hero at your company. You might think you can go it alone on a project or in your career, but teamwork is essential. Being able to work with others is the hallmark of a good leader; you’re unlikely to climb your career ladder always flying solo.

6. “It’s not fair.”

Life isn’t fair, and often your career won’t be as well. Instead of complaining, you should look for specific and actionable workarounds to the problems you encounter. Is it unfair a coworker got to run point on the project you wanted? Maybe, but instead of complaining, work harder and go the extra mile. Finding a solution will always be preferable in your professional life to whining about a problem.

7. “This is the way it’s always been done.”

Doing things the way they’ve always been done is no way to run a business. Just ask some of the companies which toed the line, accepted the status quo, and went under. Adapting to an ever-changing marketplace is really the only way to survive in an economy constantly being disrupted by the next big thing.

You don’t have to be a slave to the trends, but you also can’t stick your head in the sand and hope things go back to normal. Instead, come up with creative solutions to new problems and innovate, and you’ll soon be in the driver’s seat taking your organization into the future.

Everyone wants to be successful, so make sure your words aren’t holding you back. These seven phrases are career kryptonite -- by avoiding them, you can fly into your future and become a successful superstar.

What do you think? What phrases do you avoid on the job? Share in the comments!

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About Ilya Pozin:

Founder of Open Me and Ciplex. Columnist for Inc, Forbes & LinkedIn. Gadget lover, investor, mentor, husband, father, and '30 Under 30' entrepreneur. Follow Ilya below to stay up-to-date with his articles and updates!